There aren’t many of us who don’t have some bad habit we’d like to quit: smoking, sweets, shopping, nail-biting, porn, excessive checking of phones or social media, other distractions.
How to create positive habits that actually stick, to improve your life.
I’m going to share a simple philosophy with you today. But the impact it will have on your life is HUGE, if you apply it. Take two minutes to read about it and start applying it right now.
Changing a habit is like playing a game of chess.
In chess there’s an early game, a middle game, and an endgame. The same is true for habit change.
Many people try to change their habits by skipping straight to the endgame. They dive in and commit themselves to making the change happen right away. This is what people do when they make a New Year’s Resolution. It hardly ever works.
You’re going to love this. Why? Because it’s easy, and it works. Two of my favorite things.
You’ve always put cream and sugar in your coffee, but today is different.
You went to put that second spoonful of sugar, and you stopped halfway through.
You only put one and a half today. You’re not sure why, and you’re not sure if it matters. It does.
It matters more than you would ever know. That half of a spoonful could change your life, if you let it.
Our life isn’t as logical as we like to think.
You may plan your goals perfectly, but when the time comes for action, it doesn’t work out.
That happens to all of us, because our emotions affect our decisions. We don’t think about that when we set goals.
A 2014 study shows how our emotions affect our logical decisions. So how do you deal with that? You have to make these decisions and set your goals when you’re in a logical state, and then push through when you’re thinking emotionally. Easier said than done.
Don’t worry, I’ve summed up five of the most common emotional thoughts that will destroy your goal progress. Once you acknowledge that these thoughts exist, you can fight them off.
Do you have goals? Like real, written, actionable goals? Most people don’t.
But I’m sure you do. Because you want to get the most out of your life.
But what if I told you that goals aren’t as important as every self-help book says they are?
What if I told you that habits are the foundation to success?
Goals and habits actually work together, but goals are nothing without habits.
I don’t like to have a hundred different apps on my phone.
The more I have, the less benefit I get from the ones I do have.
For me, the 80/20 rule definitely applies to the apps I use on a daily basis.
I’m using [actually less than] 20% of my apps for 80% of my productivity. And here they are.